Watermelon!!!

Did u know that Watermelon isn't even a fruit? Yeah neither did I

Watermelon is thought to have originated in Kalahari Desert of Africa, the first recorded watermelon harvest occurred nearly 5,000 years ago in Egypt (plenty grammar...let me nor bore u guys eh)

So I was having watermelon for dinner and the light bulb came on :) and I was like hey! Why don't I blog about my healthy dinner lol

Okay so here it goes...
Not only is Watermelon refreshing and sweet, it quenches ya thirst and it contains lycopene(Google it if u dunno what it is) well, for those who no sabi Google it is a fat soluble antioxidant, watermelon is a healthy food choice that may help reduce the risks of cancer and other diseases Pls don't quote me o,quote google (na dem know pass)
Like I was saying...It is an excellent source of vitamin A,B6 and C and contains fiber and potassium, it has no fat or cholesterol...Good for your body! Good for your body!

To all those fruit sellers WATERMELON is a VEGETABLE and cucumber is his cousin :) watermelon is one of my best fru...vegetables and I am loving it even more.

So guys get chopping! Eat as much as you can cos it's healthy! Btw I think almost everybody knows that.

#ChildNotBride Lending my voice

Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, poor self esteem, somatization, insecurity, sleep disorders, trust issues, post traumatic stress disorders, conduct disorder, teenage pregnancy, self inflicted harm...etc, these and a lot more are effects of child sexual abuse.

The physical and emotional pain a child goes through when molested is unimaginable, the fear within to tell anyone especially if it's a family member, the sleepless nights because she is scared someone else might creep up on her...its heartbreaking

The torture she goes through, hot tears rushing down her face as she weeps in pain, a past she never wants to remember

That's how bad it is and worse, no child would gladly accept to feel this way please let's not force them into the unending torture

Child marriage is child sexual abuse, the undeveloped organs in the bodies of the little girls being put under distress is unbearable to imagine...She is a child not a bride

Imagine watching your 13years old daughter being molested by a 40years old man! It's a horrible sight right? It's heart burning. We definitely don't want to see our babies get pregnant for some randy old fool. Oh yes we might say it's the poor people that would give their daughters away, if they had a choice they would not, dey do not have a voice to speak...please let's help them.

We have the gadgets and the resources the help them fight this selfish men who have stooped so low and degraded to this horrible point.

When a child becomes a bride, She is denied;
The right to an education.
The right to be protected from physical and mental violence, injury or abuse, including sexual abuse, rape and sexual exploitation.
The right to the enjoyment of the highest attainable standard of health.
The right to rest and leisure, and to participate freely in cultural life.
The right to not be separated from parents against the child's will.
The right to protection against all forms of exploitation affecting any aspect of the child’s welfare.
The right to eventual employment.

Let's speak for our babies and fight against the passage of the bill.

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Please do not ignore...its a passionate cry of a young child.

Thank you.

We speak different languages

Hey guys,how u doing? Happy new month!!! I pray this month brings you joy and extraordinary blessings in Jesus name :)

Ok so I'm back again with my gist u know...now I'm not saying I am a relationship expert but I have learnt a lot from studying and experience and I want to share this information with you guys.

You see, the male and female languages have the same words but the way they are used give different meanings, their expressions are similar but they have different emotional emphasis.

Expressing feelings VS Expressing information
Men and women seldom mean the same things, even when they use the same words.
For example, when a woman says "I feel like you never listen" she does not expect the word never to be taken seriously. Using the word never is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment, it is not to be taken as factual information.

To fully express our feelings, we (women) assume poetic license to use various superlatives, metaphors and generalizations.

Sadly men mistakenly take these expressions literally because they misunderstand the intended meaning :(

Common complaints that are easily misinterpreted
Women say this                              Men respond like this
- We never go out                       That is not true,we went out last week

- Nothing is working                   Are you saying it's my fault?

- I want more romance                Are you saying I'm not romantic?

Guys do you get the drift?
You see how your responses can lead to arguments?
Unclear and unloving communication is the biggest problem in relationships, though good communication requires participation on both sides.

For a woman, a dramatic language implies a particular request. If a man listening to a woman can recognise the implied request and respond accordingly, she will feel truly heard and loved.

One of the biggest challenge for men is to interpret and support a woman correctly when she is talking about her feelings, while the biggest challenge for women is to interpret and support a man correctly when he isn't talking....silence is mostly easily misinterpreted by women
We need to understand that men and women think and process information differently, women think aloud sharing their process of inner discovery with an interested listener.

Women need to understand that when he is silent he is saying "I don't know what to say yet but I'm thinking about it". In this case, it is easy for a woman to imagine the worst because the only time a woman would be silent is when what she has to say would be hurtful or when she doesn't want to talk to the person anymore.
Women have a lot to learn about men before their relationships can be really fulfilling.
We need to learn that when a man is upset or stressed up he will automatically stop talking and go to his "cave" to work things out.

Both men and women need to stop offering the method of care they would prefer and start to learn the different ways their partners think, feel and react.

A woman should not be judged for needing reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.

As a man learns to listen and interpret a woman's feelings correctly, communication becomes easier and as with any art listening requires practice but it's worth it at the end.
So get practising guys!!! I hope I don't sound like I'm pressuring the guys tho?
Oh well its a girly life, we gotta enjoy it :D *wink*

Take care sweeties and don't forget to drop your questions and comments down below.
Thanks for reading...

Women are like waves PART 2

Even when a man is succeeding in supporting a woman, she may become even more upset!
Oops! That wld definitely hurt the young man :( but sincerely its not our fault at all.

Just hang on bro, she'll soon be out of her well and when she's out she becomes her usual loving self again :D but this positive shift is generally misunderstood by men, he wld think that whatever was bothering her is now completely healed or resolved,but this is not the case becos when her wave crashes again similar issues will arise.Without understanding the wave, he finds it hard to validate and nurture her feelings.
When a woman goes into her well her deepest issues tend to surface. These issues may have to do with the relationship,her childhood or maybe her past relationships.what remains to be healed or resolved from her past inevitably will come up.

Here the good news :) as she feels more and more supported at these difficult times, she begins to trust the relationship and is able to journey in and out of her well without conflict in her relationship or struggle in her life.

To support a woman when she is in her well is a special gift that is greatly appreciated.

Bear in mind...
- A man's love and support cannot instantly resolve a woman's issues.
-A woman going into her well is not a man's fault or his failure,being more supportive cannot prevent it from happening but it can help her through these difficult times.
- A woman has within herself the ability to spontaneously rise up after she has hit bottom, a man does not have to fix her. She is not broken but needs his love,patience and understanding.


It is essential that she feel safe to go through this cycle, otherwise she works hard at pretending that everything is always alright and suppresses her negative feelings. She may tend to numb her feelings through addictions like drinking, over eating,over working etc

Truth is when negative feelings are suppressed, positive feelings become suppressed as well and love dies.

Thanks for hanging on thus far...hope this information was helpful.
Please don't forget to share with your friends, they need to know too.
Kindly drop a comment down below before leaving.Thank u and God bless you always.

Women are like waves

Hello beautiful pple...we are talking about the women today so sit back,relax and grab your reading glasses if u need one.

A woman is like a wave just as men are like rubber bands :) yep quote me if u like...I can say that over and over again
When she feels loved, her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion,when she is feeling really good,she will reach a peak but then suddenly her mood crashes down. Fortunately, this crash is temporary ;).
When a woman's wave rises, she feels she has an abundance of love to give,but when it falls, she feels her inner-emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. At this down time, she needs to talk about her problems and be heard and most importantly understood.

A woman's self esteem rises and falls like a wave, when she hits bottom,it is time for emotional house-cleaning.

A woman's ability go give and receive love in relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive and more vulnerable and needs more love.

It is important that her partner understands her and what she needs at those times

SO PARTNERS TAKE NOTE :) :) :)

In relationships, men pull back and then get close, while women rise and fall back on their ability to love themselves and others.

What men think.
A man assumes that her sudden change of mood is based solely on his behavior, when she is happy he takes credit but when she is unhappy he also feels responsible, he may feel extremely frustrated because he doesn't know how to make things better.

DUDES PLEASE DON'T TRY TO FIX IT!!!
When a woman moves into her "well", guys please u need to learn that this is when she needs you the most and it is not a problem to be solved or fixed but an opportunity to support her with unconditional love.

Prescription A.K.A what she needs
The last thing a woman needs when she is on her way down is someone telling her why she shouldn't be down, what she needs is someone to be with her as she goes down, to listen to her while she shares her feelings and to empathize with what she is going through.

Brother, even if you can't understand why a woman feels overwhelmed, you can offer your love, attention and support. God bless you for doing that.

Stay tuned for part 2 in the next post...until den stay blessed.

Men are like RUBBER BANDS

Men are like Rubber bands!!!

When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle.This cycle involves getting close, pulling away and then getting close again...Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away, it is not a decision or choice, it just happens and bear in mind that it is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle.

When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.
Trust me I have experienced dis first hand :).

Women misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally, we pull away for differnet reasons like, when we are hurt or afraid of being hurt, or when our man has done something wrong or disappointed us.

What we Women should know!!!
This pulling away mechanism enriches a relationship cos when your Man comes springing back he come with so much love and care...tho our normal reaction would be to PANIC cos we are not sure why he has decided to pull away, but pls dont panic because that wld  put him under pressure and he is likely to keep pulling away.

A woman will unconsciously sense when a man is pulling away and precisely at those times she will attempt to reestablish their intimate connection and say "Lets talk".

When a man is pulling away is not the time to talk or try to get closer.Let him pull away, after sometime, he wld return. He would act loving and supportive and will act as though nothing has happened...This is the time to talk..this is the Golden time.
 Tho at this time we women generally are scared to talk cos the last time she wanted to talk he pulled away and now confused if he is ready to listen.

Choose Wisdom
Men generally don't realize how their sudden pulling away and later returning affects women.
A wise man grows to understand his own cycle and reassures his lady when he pulls away that he wld be back.
A wise woman learns not to demand that a man talks but asks that he truly listens to her. She trusts that he will gradually open up more and listen to her.
A wise woman does not give up, she patiently and lovingly persists with a knowing that few women have.

Hang on lady, you have not lost him yet...Insecurity kills relationships.
Choose knowledge and Wisdom.

Words from his soul...

The sparkle in your eye
The warmth of your skin
Your breath on my neck that shakes me within

The touch of your hand
The smell of your hair
The naughtiness in your smile
That strength in your stare

Your kiss on my lips
Your body near mine
The stroke of your touch
That feeling inside

The compassion in your embrace
The power in your face
The beating of your heart
that we may never part

The beauty of your kiss
and that magic in your touch
It is for all these reasons and more that I LOVE YOU so much.

Share if you love someone.