When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle.This cycle involves getting close, pulling away and then getting close again...Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away, it is not a decision or choice, it just happens and bear in mind that it is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle.
When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.
Trust me I have experienced dis first hand :).
Women misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally, we pull away for differnet reasons like, when we are hurt or afraid of being hurt, or when our man has done something wrong or disappointed us.
What we Women should know!!!
This pulling away mechanism enriches a relationship cos when your Man comes springing back he come with so much love and care...tho our normal reaction would be to PANIC cos we are not sure why he has decided to pull away, but pls dont panic because that wld put him under pressure and he is likely to keep pulling away.
A woman will unconsciously sense when a man is pulling away and precisely at those times she will attempt to reestablish their intimate connection and say "Lets talk".
When a man is pulling away is not the time to talk or try to get closer.Let him pull away, after sometime, he wld return. He would act loving and supportive and will act as though nothing has happened...This is the time to talk..this is the Golden time.
Tho at this time we women generally are scared to talk cos the last time she wanted to talk he pulled away and now confused if he is ready to listen.
Choose Wisdom
Men generally don't realize how their sudden pulling away and later returning affects women.
A wise man grows to understand his own cycle and reassures his lady when he pulls away that he wld be back.
A wise woman learns not to demand that a man talks but asks that he truly listens to her. She trusts that he will gradually open up more and listen to her.
A wise woman does not give up, she patiently and lovingly persists with a knowing that few women have.
Hang on lady, you have not lost him yet...Insecurity kills relationships.
Choose knowledge and Wisdom.
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